Controversy has plagued the interweb dens of many Christian women over this article. The article “Men prefer debt free virgins without tattoos,” written by Lori Alexander, has provoked disgust in obviously feminist-indoctrinated women. It hurts their feelings. It doesn’t take exceptions 4,342, or 8921(w) into account, or it even goes against the gospel!
The controversy? This quote
Do you know how much more attractive debt-free virgins (without tattoos) are to young men? Unfortunately, there are so few of these types of young women anymore because of the high costs of college (debt) and sexual promiscuity even within those in the church. As believers in Jesus Christ, we need to live in a way that is pleasing to Him because His ways are the best. He calls debt a burden and urges us to live lives of sexual purity.
In the article, the author encourages women to
carefully consider whether or not they go to college, especially if they want to be wives and mothers someday
If they go to college, they are unlikely to stay home raising their children to pay off the debt and use the degree they spent years on.
Even more “revolting” was
Young women, be wise in the path that you choose to walk on. Keep a long-term vision of your life and how you hope it will be someday instead of acting upon all of the “what ifs…?” that many will throw at you. Trust God with your life, study the Word, and take the narrow path that leads to life. Stay virgins until marriage, out of debt, and don’t get tattoos!
The theme of every reaction is that:
- it’s mean
- “I did all of that and am not married.”
- it’s counter gospel.
I encourage everyone to read the article. Never once does the article say you have to do all to be married. She stated Christian men’s preferences. Also, the gospel is about salvation, not about captain save a ho.
Why are “Christian” women offended by this? Why are girls on Focus on the Family’s ministry page Boundless going berserk about this sound advice?
Are they refusing to hear godly wisdom?
Are they upset because they aren’t virgins yet still expect top tier men?
Why are they confusing the gospel and salvation with wisdom and prudence?
The Bible says in 1 Timothy 2
likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works.
Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness. I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet.
Yet she will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith and love and holiness, with self-control.
Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good,
Tit 2:4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children,
Tit 2:5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
Proverbs 5 warns against “forbidden” women
Pro 5:6 she does not ponder the path of life; her ways wander, and she does not know it.
Pro 5:7 And now, O sons, listen to me, and do not depart from the words of my mouth.
Keep byour way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house, lest you give your honor to others and your years to the merciless, lest strangers take their fill of your strength, and your labors go to the house of a foreigner,
Pro 5:11 and at the end of your life you groan, when your flesh and body are consumed,
proverbs 7 describes the characteristics of a forbidden woman and likens her to a prostitute
And behold, the woman meets him, dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart.
Pro 7:11 She is loud and wayward; her feet do not stay at home;
Pro 7:12 now in the street, now in the market, and at every corner she lies in wait.